#24 All couples need a Date Jar
No matter how long you’ve been in a relationship with someone, going out on dates is a wonderful way to spend some quality time together.
Finding the time for them is one thing, but knowing what to do is another challenge as well.
My partner and I get around the latter problem with our Date Jar.
It’s a little mason jar, filled with folded squares of paper that have different dates written on them.
If we want to go out on a date but don’t know exactly what we want to do, we dip into it and let a bit of randomness take over.
There are a few parameters with the Date Jar.
- We must agree on the dates before adding options to the mix.
- We frame most of the dates open-endedly so we can adapt according to the weather, time constraints etc.
- Mutual vetoes are allowed but we try to avoid them because it defeats the purpose.
- We strive to do the date within a week of selecting it in case preparation is required like booking tables or securing picnic ingredients for example.
Of course, we still go on dates without running it past the Date Jar.
But if one of us is feeling a little bit down and needs a little lift or we’re stuck in the choosing stage of arranging an adventure or activity, the Date Jar is there with a fun, random way of picking something to do.
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